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HEA vs HFN

Sometimes I read reviews for my work. Most of the time I avoid it like the plague. No matter how harsh or glowing, it can be very insightful.

One such review, and I’ve heard this comment before, is that my books aren’t Happily Ever After (HEA) or even Happy for Now (HFN). In a way this isn’t true. As a girl who grew up thinking her life depended on a boy, and as an adult, a woman who’s happiness depended on a grown-boy, I learned quickly and harshly that HEA and HFN does not exist in reality.

My books are closer to reality than you’d believe. Genre aside, I write psychologically- emotions, and the actions that are driven by said emotions.

Ultimately it is about HEA- the character’s HEA, not as a couple, but within yourself. People in our lives leave us, betray us, or die on us, and we are left in the ashes of our wrecked lives- alone. Yes, I sound pessimistic. I’m not. You have to love yourself, learn to rely on yourself, and never give yourself away to another human being. That is what my books are about. It’s a journey of character growth, and I don’t mean character development in the sense of fictional creations. I mean personality, your constitution, your soul.

I write for empowerment, whether female or male. The right to own your needs and wants, and explore them fully, to experience enlightenment. I want everyone to be comfortable in their own skin, to love themselves, and see themselves as good enough just as they are.

So my characters may not have a prince charming, because he doesn’t exist, but they do have a champion- themselves. There isn’t a greater gift in life to give, then to know who you are, what you want, and strive to get it. You will be able to love fully, and appreciate all the qualities in your friends and family that they do not like in themselves.

The saying goes: you have to learn to walk before you run. Well, you have to love yourself and be happy within yourself, before you can love someone else and be happy with them.

Since I’m on my way there, I won’t make a fatal mistake. I refuse to accept anyone as my partner that hasn’t reached this level within themselves, because they can’t love you back. There is no such thing as healing someone- it beings inside YOU!

Keep this in mind as you read my works. You will see the story from a fresh pair of eyes. I make them go through trial after trial, and notice that it isn’t about a coupling, it’s about personal growth. My stories will make sense if read from this perspective.

Back to Good Girl. She has grown a lot. I used Willow to show how fulfilling it is to be happy just being who you are…

2 responses

  1. Melissa

    I think we need more books like that. I admit that I love romances and happily ever afters but I think that those also have a tendency to set a relationship up for failure if a person isn’t careful. Relationships are tough and you have to work hard for your happily ever after as a person and as a couple. Romance books make it look so easy. Ok, sorry I will get off my soapbox. Thank you for writing a realistic book where the girl gets herself and that is enough.

    January 17, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    • WickedWriter

      Thank you, Melissa.
      I’m so glad someone understand what I’m saying. I love a good romance, too. I love the other books that don’t show getting married as the HEA- the ending. It’s the beginning of a journey to find that HEA. Every relationship is a work in progress. Including the one you have with yourself.

      January 17, 2013 at 1:32 pm

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